Sometimes I wish marriage wasn't a thing

Sometimes I wish marriage wasn't a thing. As a late 20 something, it's depressing to watch friends change and disappear to a lot of unhealthy relationships. Really empowered women completely losing themselves in childhood trauma playing out in a relationship. I can understand the concept of marriage of a 35+ year old - someone who is very much so an adult and is likely financially independent and emotionally mature, having worked on their childhood traumas. But under 30??? What the hell is the point?? I feel like it's a deeeep insecurity and jumping at the first person who likes you. Just trauma wounds over and over again.

Personally, I don't get the hype of couples staying together for decades. If they're truly two very healthy individuals, go for it. But I don't feel like that's most people. I've watched and heard about co-dependent relationships, abuse and two people clearly unhappy staying together. I don't get it? Why?

If people continued to date and break-up over their lifespan, imagine how much healthier the world would be. People would have real time to emotionally grow and heal their wounds, having been single for so many years. Then, get into healthy relationships should they choose rather than jumping into one.

Also, talk about how much fun it would be to live with friends??? And hook up with people as if you were in college or young 20s?? The burden of being forced into marriage roles wouldn't occur because people would have grown out of them emotionally and healed those wounds before getting into serious relationships through their trial and error of relationships over time.

I feel like everyone was happier when we were single and living freely and now it’s sad that people are all coupled up. It’s not the same vibe when it comes to friendship. I remember thinking of the future when I was in college myself. It was deeply saddening to realize the future would be less about friends and all about “that one person”. It’s not healthy imo.

I don't think the concept of marriage is a bad thing. It can be really beautiful - if it's healthy. But the pressure society makes of aligning your entire life with another person? And staying no matter what? Especially under 30? As a woman, this doesn't seem like a celebration to me. It feels very much so like a trap.