Why are you still getting married?

I don't understand why women are getting married. To be honest, there is little to no benefit as a hetero woman. Statistically speaking, hetero women who don't marry men are the most well off in life. Then, women who marry later in life. Whereas men benefit the younger they marry.

Personally, I don't even understand why one would get married given the statistics literally share how you don't benefit from it and will sacrifice yourself for it?

Next. Statistics say how friends are the most important relationship in your life, and they add to the joy and health of your longevity. Partner is not the top seat. So, again, why get married? Imagine a life of living with close friends. Sounds like heaven. Imagine raising kids with your friends?

Next. The root of marriage is literally derived from ownership and control of women. The whole concept makes no sense to me.

Last. Do men even see women as people? Seriously? This is something largely discussed today that many women are waking up to the fact that they see women as objects who satisfy their needs. I have yet to hear of a woman say that a man knows how to carry the mental load, let alone understand it. I don't understand the appeal to marriage if you already know that you're going to sacrifice your freedom, independence and essentially be a servant to your husband and kids - yes, even in 2025.

Do you realize how powerful women are??!?!? Why are we still doing this as a group???

Imagine a world where women claimed their power and didn't sacrifice even 1%. I daydream about this. I want so much better for us.

Side note: it deeply saddens me to see women in their 20s getting married and completely abandoning their individuality and worth and even friends for this "one". They are so young. every 20-something I've ever seen get married still has so much work to do in therapy before that choice imo. they're just kids. seems like co-dependency than actually being emotionally mature and stable on your own, let alone not being financially independent first before marriage... so more co-dependency. And to those giving up their last name? You’re literally giving up your identity. I feel like this is a major sign of not being ready yet.

Edit: I’m queer and have been with men and women. I personally don’t think hetero women know what they’re missing.

Edit: I find the responses very interesting. Another person did as well. They wrote, "I find it interesting how everywhere else on this sub (even coupled) women are like "the bar for men is in hell" and we're flooded with posts such as "my husband never washes his ass and doesn't know how to turn on the stove, am I overreacting?", yet OP is being picked apart for this post. She makes some good points, though I agree that it could have been worded differently. Maybe people are also reacting to the use of "you" (like "why are YOU still getting married")? Sure a lot of women (who replied here) have gotten lucky and found a good partnership so it makes sense to get married, and sure some women found a good partnership in their early 20s despite the fact that people in their early 20s are not very emotionally mature and too young to choose anything (see careers), but I took the last part of OP's post to mean "why are most women still desperate for male attention since they hit puberty?" And I refer here strictly to my generation, millennials, I've seen this time and time again with my girlfriends. Society still very much drills into us that being in a partnership is the end goal of life, while the reality is that, yes, many partnerships are still massively unequal (not the ones of the women who replied here), so the question "why are we still doing this as a group" has some merit."

I think a lot of people are taking it personally and not able to look at it logically with the other emotions they feel. They're reacting with one emotion at a time rather than viewing all emotions at once to then respond with logic.

Edit: a really great video of what I'm describing, especially for the 20 somethings getting married. She's discussing kids, but it carries over into marriage, too. https://youtu.be/c31hcA1EKGA?si=uWk-qgBsp449bpXV The first 1:40 gets to the point. She lacked a sense of self and found identify in this role rather than doing the therapy work first to love herself first before losing herself in what was expected of her to hope to find herself.