Siblings of Autistic Children

I feel like my NT child is suffering because of my autistic child. Last night my AuDHD son screamed in her face until she was curled up in a ball crying. (They were with my mom so I wasn't there to handle the situation.) But him lashing out in anger is not an uncommon thing. Last week he struck her arm so hard and had his handprint on her.

We had a long conversation with both kiddos. My AuDHD has therapies in place and we're working on things to improve his actions. I feel like I'm having to protect my youngest from him. She said "How do I believe it's not my fault?" She truly thinks it was her fault he did that and other times she defends him when she gets verbally or physically hurt.

I spend so much time helping my oldest manage his emotions, life and attending therapies and it's exhausting. I feel like my youngest is not getting the support she needs.