Compatibility with trans man

I (female 20s) have been dating my partner (male 20s) for more than a year. He is also trans. Lately, I have been pushing for us to have more traditional intimacy as it is what I am more comfortable and happy with.

He has shared feeling challenged with performing in this more active role. I have only had traditional heterosexual experiences prior to us, so his hesitancy has left me feeling rejected.

I’m satisfied with most other aspects of our relationship so I am not looking to separate.

I am hoping to hear from others who have worked through similar challenges with intimacy. Any thoughtful advice or experiences would be appreciated.