Society is in denial that the vast majority of people don’t like raising children.

A friend and I were sharing comics from the time when American women were fighting for their right to vote.

The theme of the comics was the artists threatening husbands that if they didn’t keep their wives from voting, that they would be the ones stuck raising the children.

Now this was decades before the invention of the birth control pill, so at least these people didn’t have a lot of options, in pregnancy prevention.

I later had another conversation with some childfree acquaintances. One was complaining that her coworker had made a snide remark about her having money because she was childfree. She was complaining to the other woman that the Mother had chosen to have a child.

The other woman stated that most people don’t put enough thought into having a child for it to truly be called, a choice. Some parents just have children because that’s just what one does-no thought goes into the consequences of that decision.

I think of all the times I have heard of Fathers going into work early and coming home late, in order to avoid their children as much as possible.

Society needs to come to terms that people do not like being parents, they don’t want to raise kids and tragically this is not preventing people having kids.

Society keeps shushing parents claiming that if parents say they hate parenting then that means they don’t love their kids. It does this to keep people who haven’t become parents from being warned.

I honestly believe if we could shift the cultural narrative, so that only people whose life goal is to be parents, became parents, 90-95% of people would not chose to become parents.